Parenting Arrangements After Separation 

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Following separation there are four approaches that parents can take when setting up future parenting arrangements for their children. Determining which approach is best depends on several factors. 

How should I structure parenting agreements after separation?

If you are a parent who has recently separated, answer the 3 questions below to find out which approach might be suitable for your family. Read each question and answer A, B, C or D choosing the response that best describes your situation .  

The communication between you and your ex is generally:  

  1. Very good – we communicate regularly and easily and agree about most parenting matters; 
  2. Good – we communicate when required and when we have differences, we work these out; 
  3. Poor – we communicate mainly by text or email and struggle to resolve our differences; 
  4. Non-existent – we are unable to communicate at all and disagree about everything.

The level of trust between you and your ex is generally:  

  1. Very High – we keep our word and uphold our agreements; 
  2. High – there have been a few minor issues with agreements not being followed; 
  3. Low – there have been times when core agreements have not been followed; 
  4. Very Low –  there is no agreement to uphold. 

Describe your preference regarding the structure for parenting arrangements: 

  1. Very Low: flexibility and being able to change arrangements as needed is a high priority; 
  2. Low:  routine has a place but the ability to make changes to arrangements is more important; 
  3. High: routine is important and the ability to make changes should be limited;
  4. Very High: consistency and certainty are very important. 

         Your results suggest…

        Mostly A’s – A verbal agreement may be the suitable arrangement for your family. 

        Mostly B’s – A parenting plan may be the preferred pathway for your family . 

        Mostly C’s – A consent order may be the best option for your family. 

        Mostly D’s – A parenting order made by the court may be what is needed for your family.  

        What things should I include in my parenting arrangement?

        For the things you should include in your parenting arrangement, see the image below and further information can be found here.

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        The above should in no way be construed as legal advice. If you would like legal advice about parenting arrangements or other family law matters call (07) 3548 5868 for a free 20-minute phone consultation with one of our family lawyers.